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Budgeting Tips for New Married Couples

New married couples should talk about budgeting early in their marriage relationship. 

I've seen a couple of friends recently who had their weddings since the pandemic began. Most were simple weddings since not many guests could come (especially those from other provinces) and these are tough times as well.

Newlyweds have their first dip together in the area of budgeting when they plan for their wedding. Whether they would consider being frugal or not in their wedding plans and expenses is not seen as a big issue. Well, the reasoning that "you get to have your dream wedding only once" seems to justify the expenses. 

But the reality of budgeting and money management as a couple starts on the first day (well maybe not the first day, give it a couple of days) that they are really together as husband and wife. They may have talked a little about it when they were still engaged, but if not they've got to talk about it now.

Newly married couples must begin to talk about how they are going to handle their finances and form good money management habits as early as possible. If not, sooner or later money problems would start to surface and may strain the relationship. The inability to talk about money issues in a marriage is not healthy and may lead to poor living, debt, conflicts, and even divorce.

I've been married for 20 years now and I'm still not an expert when it comes to budgeting. But my husband and I are smart enough not to fight over money or allow money issues to put pressure on our relationship. Secondly, we are smart enough not to get ourselves in any kind of debt. It's not rocket science. We just follow simple principles that help us make frugal living possible.

Budgeting Tips for Couples, Especially the Newly Married

Let me share with you these tips that you and your spouse could talk about in the area of budgeting.

1. Know how much you have together.

First, please answer this poll.

As a couple, do you keep your money separate or do you pull them together?
a little of both
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I know there are husbands and wives who keep their money separately after they have been married. They talk about budgeting this way - "You pay for this and I will pay for that." Well, that may work for them, but for us, we believe that when God put us together as one, that included our finances.

Just think about it. When I am a stay at home mom, I don't have any salary to speak of as my own. If we do not consider my husband's salary as "OUR" money, then I would be in such a sorry state. And so are the other stay at home moms out there.

Putting together what the husband and the wife (if she's working) earn allows transparency in the relationship which builds up trust. Whether it is the wife or the husband who would handle the money, it is up to them to talk about it, as long as they manage their money as "ONE."

This is how we look at OUR money resources as a couple, how about you?

2. Know how much you should spend.

The husband and wife have different views and ways of how they spend money. But now that they are together, they have to meet halfway so that they could keep their finances manageable. Couples need to talk about setting goals and budgets. Goals include how you want your finances to be in 5, 10 or 20 years. If you want to buy a house, put it on your goal and budget. If you want to have a retirement fund, put that on your goal and budget, too.

Know how much you should spend each month. The key is not to spend more than what you have, so set a budget. Determine the different categories of expenses you have like food, utility bills, car maintenance, doctor's appointment, entertainment, etc. and know how much money is supposed to be spent on those. 

If you give support to your parents, you definitely have to talk about it or it may become a cause of conflict later on. You may also include budgets for your emergency fund, your children's college fund, or your retirement fund.

The goal in budgeting is to keep finances on the positive. So, it's not enough just to know how much you should spend. You should also keep track of your expenses. Using a budget planner can help you evaluate each month if you are on the budget. 

You can check out my blog post on Using Budget Planners for Money Management. Scroll down the page to see how you can download a free budget planner.

Now, please answer this second poll.

Who handles your money as a couple/family?
More by the Husband
More by the Wife
A balance of both i.e. the wife handles the expenses, husband handles investments; something like that
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3. Know your responsibility.

Who should handle the money? In most cases, the wife is the one who handles the budgeting. But it doesn't mean that the husband can't do it, especially if the wife tends to overspend. Whoever is more capable of doing it should do it. The key is to know each one's responsibility and be transparent with this arrangement.

In my case, I usually handle the budgeting since I know the things we need to buy for our family but I always keep my husband informed about our expenses. I also keep a record of the expenses, so that when he wants to know our financial standing, he can have a visual.

Whoever handles the money, it is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to make sure that their finances are in check. Both have to adjust to the way they spend money and how they can make ends meet. They should find a money management system that works for them, be it the envelope budgeting system (putting the money/budget for each category in a separate envelope), checking account system (managing and tracking all your expenses from the one checking account), use of couponing, or whatever.

A common question asked is should each partner know all the expenses of his partner? Well, it's up to the couple if they want to set a budget limit, say $50, that they could spend without necessarily informing the other. Just be sure that trust is never broken.

5 More Budgeting Tips for New Married Couples

1. Communicate, communicate, communicate. 

You just don't know how much you can save if you learn to communicate.

2. Agree to disagree with love. 

You will not agree on many things, budgeting and spending included. But talk about it and settle things in consideration of your love for each other.

3. You don't have to buy everything you need ... at least at the moment. 

I know newlywed couples are just starting a life together and may need a lot of things including that of a house. Choose only those which are must-haves and put the others on your goals and budget.

4. It doesn't always have to be brand new. 

As with any other frugal spender, it saves a person a lot if they would consider buying from second-hand stores, garage sales or in flea markets.

5. Learn to do it yourself. 

Need to decorate your house, do some repainting, or some home repairs? It might be a good project you can do together as a couple. There is a lot of information online which can help you accomplish DIY projects quickly and economically.

That's it for today's blog post. Don't forget to download your free budget planner here. Also, feel free to share your budgeting tips in the comment section below. 

Have a nice day!


Ivan M. Jose said…
These are practical budgeting tips that my wife and I follow even if we had been married for more than five years already.
melissa said…
The free budget planner sounds amazing. Many couples struggle with finances. I feel really lucky to be on the same page with my husband. Cant wait to try your budget planner though.
AiringMyLaundry said…
Yes! My husband and I were young when we got married and didn't know enough about finances.
Julia Hess said…
These are wonderful tips. I completely agree, when you come together in a marriage, it also means your finances. I feel like keeping that stuff separate allows for an easy escape instead of working through things. But the most important thing is that a couple needs to find what works best for them and to not fight about money.
Mom Knows Best said…
Money can be a tough issue for couples. My husband and I look at the money as ours and I manage it.
These are very important tips to keep in mind. I wish I knew back then what I know now.
Nyxie said…
We're getting married shortly but we have been living together for years. So we know how much each of us has together and apart.
It's a great system to have.
These are some great tips. I have been married for 15 years and I agree that all married couples should keep their money together. Trust is very important in a marriage.
Eloise said…
These are very good tips for any couple. Finances are very important to discuss once you're about to share living costs. Communication is key when it comes to all things, including money ; )
Hannah Marie said…
I agree with these budgeting tips. It's important to know how much money you both got before setting things up. Trust and communication is the key for a better relationship of couples.

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